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My name is Lori Walston I was referred to Kasemcares by Sheriff Swain who is part of the elder abuse unit in Clovis Ca and my last hope to be able to see and spend time with my mother. Mom ( Doris ) is 87 and in good health, however she has suffered from anxiety and allergies and has been on medication for both for years.

These are the events that lead to my absolute inability to ever see or even speak to my Mom over the phone for the rest of our lives. . If i could just find a way to stand in her presence everything would all change in an instant!

My sister Janice who is 10 years older than myself, stole the living trust from my Mother’s safe 15 years ago . She would not return it to Mom nor provide me with a copy. My brother Brad committed suicide in my sister’s barn on New Years Eve 12 years ago from a long distance bitter divorce and two children he would rarely see again.. One day, Mom asked me for my opinion, she tells me Jan says she thinks my brother should be cut out of the trust and his children should get nothing . Their mother comes from money and has money and his children “ don’t need it” . I told Mom “that is not dad’s wishes” and how the heck could she do that anyway? I can still hear her reply “Jan can be very intimidating” but” I will handle her”. Some time later, Janice conveys to me her half ( no brother ) of trust money will go to her kids, because “:she doesn’t need it.”

In secret, Mom assigns Janice as her power of attorney over medical and financial . Janice lives close and is 10 years older. She is no doubt the one that should do this for my mother, Why the secret?. I have to assume that the medical is durable because I have never seen the documents. Since then, Mom has never had her own bank card. She has checks but trouble seeing is a problem. If she needs money for anything she has to ask Jan. Asking Jan for money is , lets just say, “difficult” .

Then when on a visit at Mom’s, the relative on Jan’s side of the family who is renting a room at my mom’s, is moving. His daughter tells me that her Dad has been giving my sister the rent money in cash for the last 2 years and just think’s it’s odd. I asked her Dad and he says that he has, he couldn’t very well tell her no . I ask mom if she has been given receipts for the money and she says that she hasn’t. I then ask why she let Jan take the money, she says “Jan says I owe it to her”. Mom just wants me to say nothing and keep the peace. So that’s what I do, and that’s what Mom does.

My mom over a year’s time began to lose her sight and she began to say things to me that I know are coming from my sister. Most people have to have suspicions about a family member that is using undue influence and durable power of attorney to exploit their loved one. My Mom finally told me that Janice has been after mine and my brothers inheritance for years! . I asked her why and mom says that “she thinks she deserves it”. My heart broke in two that night, our lives are very different. Janice who has never worked a 9 to 5 job is being left 2 large properties and a 12 room house barns and corrals for her 20 horses. Her husband, Bud long since retired, is 11 years older and is suffering from cancer . I on the other hand am single, renting an apt in Santa Clara County living paycheck to paycheck. Mom and I have spent every holiday together because everyone else was busy with their own families. I spent the last holiday’s alone under a dark cloud of betrayal. I have spent every New Years Eve and day with Mom Since Brads decision to be certain she knew what she has ment to me in my life and that it was not her fault . No other family member ever came to call. I text Jan only on that holiday to beg to speak to Mom. I never got a reply. Mom and I were very close because of the fact we both lived alone however I spoke to her over the phone many times through out the day . We discussed that I would come and care for her so she could remain in her home. After a visit to her eye doctor she calls me and says she was diagnosed legally blind and told there is nothing the doctor can do to help her. We agree it’s time, and being single I am the natural one to care for her in her home. i will begin to move my things to her house the next week on Halloween weekend 2016. The Friday i am to start bringing my things to her house I call mom’s phone and there is no answer . I text my (nephew and sister) he texts back grandma’s fine, she is with Janice. Sunday I finally get a text from Janice that Mom is fine “very fine” she is with all of us. I text back and ask Jan to call me so I can talk to her that we had plans . Janice sends no reply. So I drive the 3 hours to my sister’s. I saw my nephew first that lives on the ranch and he tells me that he saw my Mom a week ago and she was talking and acting funny ( he draws a circle with his finger to his head) so he notified my sister . Instead of my sister calling me to come help, my sister takes my mother “who can barely see” and in the crisis of a “first time delirium” out of her home and moves her to her house. I have every reason to believe that my Mother had a full blown mental breakdown right then and there from further shock that was intentionally brought on by my sister. All done to gain further control over my Mother’s living trust and the money she lives on now. I also believe that she switched her mental health doctor at this time as to not raise any questions . I cant access any medical records of my Mother’s. When I knocked on the door mom heard me outside and Jan let me in. She stands in front of my Mom so she can’t see me. Her and her husband start yelling all i do is upset my Mom and I have never taken care of anything in my life. Jan is even raising her arms up and down rapidly to further confuse my Mother. I told my sister I work for In home support services and i see her face crack a little but she shrugs it off. She continues to yell so we can’t communicate. Then they threaten that they are going to call the police.. Mom is holding her head and crying but says she will see me in the morning when she feels better. My sister would not give me the keys to Mom’s house so I went to a hotel. I just wanted to tell her she can go back home and that she has a choice. The next morning rather than cause Mom more grief I went to A.P.S. and told them what i just expressed to you, They said they would go see my Mom and talk to her alone. I went home to wait for an answer to all the confusion.. All the next week i text Jan about Mom I tell her she can have the money, she has more expenses than me please just let me see Mom! She replied, It’s half, if there is anything left” the medical bills are through the roof!. Half? What happened to my brother? A week goes by and in the morning A.P.S. calls me about confusion over the directions to her house. That night I get a call at work from Jan’s husband who can barely contain himself, he is so happy, He tells me “your mom says she doesn’t want to talk to you”. When i insisted on seeing her he called me a baby!. He cared for his own Mother at their home until she passed on! “how dare he judge my feelings”!.

A.P.S. referred me to the sheriff to get a police escort to try and see Mom, however if someone says they don’t want to talk to you there is nothing anyone can do. The police escort is only to create a paper trail. I have told my story to Dr. Phil and was accepted to appear on the show. The effort was another dead end. My sister would have to agree to appear with me on the show. I asked in a text and got no reply. I asked my sister why Mom doesn’t want to talk to me and she says” I will want to tell he my issues”. I cant afford private mediation, the courts don’t give it in this situation and Jan would never agree to it anyway. I will text her about it today, more paper trail.

I spoke to the sheriff mentioned in the beginning of my story who could not offer any help either however he did say for the police to ask why Mom doesn’t want to talk to me. He also told me about the kasemcares web site and said maybe the can help. He mentioned that the website is all about what I am experiencing

I am having deep depression and anxiety attacks , I have trust issues now. This is affecting my friendships. I can’t eat and I have to take medication or i can’t sleep. I cry and then get angry. I am an extremely positive person that adapts easily to any situation life hands me, be it good or bad. I am not use to feeling what I feel every day. I cant believe my flesh and blood is intentionally doing this to Mom and I for money ! If someone, anyone out there can restore my faith in humanity and justice please answer my plea. Thank god for my two little dogs, my best friends. They are the only ones that have been able to help me. My Mom is with her little dog now, I know he comforts her as well.