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In a nutshell: my youngest brother became my mothers caregiver because he couldnt support himself and was already in her house. He isolated her from everyone. I was in charge of her medical and my brother cancelled all appointments I made. Adult Protective Services was called over and over and never made sure she went to her doctors, just said she was fine. APS said I needed to go the first visit. Turns out the law says I am to remain anonymous. My mother wouldnt talk to me after that.
The police were called on that visit and one cop took over and screwed it all up while the social worker just sat there. I filed for conservatorship. My attorney called me to say he had received a call that she had died 2 weeks prior.
The autopsy proved she didnt have alzheimers yet the coroner put the cause of death as Inanition due to Alzheimers. She weighed 69lbs and had no food or water in her system. The police wouldnt do anything. Her body was donated and destroyed so I couldnt call for another autopsy. My brother got away with murder. I have lots more details of how nobody did their job and the laws protecting my mother were not followed.
Why Producer Director, Actor Signature Voice Over Artist Kurt Kelly support Kasem Cares
Kurt Kelly, like Casey Kasem, both hail from the Great Lakes State of Michigan; and knew each other personally over the years while both work for ABC Networks in Los Angeles. Casey and Kelly would meet at the studios where American Top 40 was taped weekly, and for dinners around Hollywood; in addition to Network and Celebrity events.
Kelly feels it is tragic what happened to Casey, and his family; working with Kerri Kasem, and his contacts at the NBC Today show, Kelly helped keep the Kasem story in the news for the world to know. Casey Kasem is clearly an Icon American Legend in Entertainment Radio, Television, Film and beyond. It is truly deeply saddening know the living hell Kerri Kasem and her family have suffered due to this intolerable abuse. Its time to enact laws to stop this type of inhumanity globally; not just here in Hollywood, but the grassroots need to span the globe.
Please do you part to support the elderly, and to give to the works of Kerri Kasem and Kasem Cares!
Bless you for doing the right thing!
My name is Lori Walston I was referred to Kasemcares by Sheriff Swain who is part of the elder abuse unit in Clovis Ca and my last hope to be able to see and spend time with my mother. Mom ( Doris ) is 87 and in good health, however she has suffered from anxiety and allergies and has been on medication for both for years.
These are the events that lead to my absolute inability to ever see or even speak to my Mom over the phone for the rest of our lives. . If i could just find a way to stand in her presence everything would all change in an instant!
My sister Janice who is 10 years older than myself, stole the living trust from my Mothers safe 15 years ago . She would not return it to Mom nor provide me with a copy. My brother Brad committed suicide in my sisters barn on New Years Eve 12 years ago from a long distance bitter divorce and two children he would rarely see again.. One day, Mom asked me for my opinion, she tells me Jan says she thinks my brother should be cut out of the trust and his children should get nothing . Their mother comes from money and has money and his children dont need it . I told Mom that is not dads wishes and how the heck could she do that anyway? I can still hear her reply Jan can be very intimidating but I will handle her. Some time later, Janice conveys to me her half ( no brother ) of trust money will go to her kids, because :she doesnt need it.
In secret, Mom assigns Janice as her power of attorney over medical and financial . Janice lives close and is 10 years older. She is no doubt the one that should do this for my mother, Why the secret?. I have to assume that the medical is durable because I have never seen the documents. Since then, Mom has never had her own bank card. She has checks but trouble seeing is a problem. If she needs money for anything she has to ask Jan. Asking Jan for money is , lets just say, difficult .
Then when on a visit at Moms, the relative on Jans side of the family who is renting a room at my moms, is moving. His daughter tells me that her Dad has been giving my sister the rent money in cash for the last 2 years and just thinks its odd. I asked her Dad and he says that he has, he couldnt very well tell her no . I ask mom if she has been given receipts for the money and she says that she hasnt. I then ask why she let Jan take the money, she says Jan says I owe it to her. Mom just wants me to say nothing and keep the peace. So thats what I do, and thats what Mom does.
My mom over a years time began to lose her sight and she began to say things to me that I know are coming from my sister. Most people have to have suspicions about a family member that is using undue influence and durable power of attorney to exploit their loved one. My Mom finally told me that Janice has been after mine and my brothers inheritance for years! . I asked her why and mom says that she thinks she deserves it. My heart broke in two that night, our lives are very different. Janice who has never worked a 9 to 5 job is being left 2 large properties and a 12 room house barns and corrals for her 20 horses. Her husband, Bud long since retired, is 11 years older and is suffering from cancer . I on the other hand am single, renting an apt in Santa Clara County living paycheck to paycheck. Mom and I have spent every holiday together because everyone else was busy with their own families. I spent the last holidays alone under a dark cloud of betrayal. I have spent every New Years Eve and day with Mom Since Brads decision to be certain she knew what she has ment to me in my life and that it was not her fault . No other family member ever came to call. I text Jan only on that holiday to beg to speak to Mom. I never got a reply. Mom and I were very close because of the fact we both lived alone however I spoke to her over the phone many times through out the day . We discussed that I would come and care for her so she could remain in her home. After a visit to her eye doctor she calls me and says she was diagnosed legally blind and told there is nothing the doctor can do to help her. We agree its time, and being single I am the natural one to care for her in her home. i will begin to move my things to her house the next week on Halloween weekend 2016. The Friday i am to start bringing my things to her house I call moms phone and there is no answer . I text my (nephew and sister) he texts back grandmas fine, she is with Janice. Sunday I finally get a text from Janice that Mom is fine very fine she is with all of us. I text back and ask Jan to call me so I can talk to her that we had plans . Janice sends no reply. So I drive the 3 hours to my sisters. I saw my nephew first that lives on the ranch and he tells me that he saw my Mom a week ago and she was talking and acting funny ( he draws a circle with his finger to his head) so he notified my sister . Instead of my sister calling me to come help, my sister takes my mother who can barely see and in the crisis of a first time delirium out of her home and moves her to her house. I have every reason to believe that my Mother had a full blown mental breakdown right then and there from further shock that was intentionally brought on by my sister. All done to gain further control over my Mothers living trust and the money she lives on now. I also believe that she switched her mental health doctor at this time as to not raise any questions . I cant access any medical records of my Mothers. When I knocked on the door mom heard me outside and Jan let me in. She stands in front of my Mom so she cant see me. Her and her husband start yelling all i do is upset my Mom and I have never taken care of anything in my life. Jan is even raising her arms up and down rapidly to further confuse my Mother. I told my sister I work for In home support services and i see her face crack a little but she shrugs it off. She continues to yell so we cant communicate. Then they threaten that they are going to call the police.. Mom is holding her head and crying but says she will see me in the morning when she feels better. My sister would not give me the keys to Moms house so I went to a hotel. I just wanted to tell her she can go back home and that she has a choice. The next morning rather than cause Mom more grief I went to A.P.S. and told them what i just expressed to you, They said they would go see my Mom and talk to her alone. I went home to wait for an answer to all the confusion.. All the next week i text Jan about Mom I tell her she can have the money, she has more expenses than me please just let me see Mom! She replied, Its half, if there is anything left the medical bills are through the roof!. Half? What happened to my brother? A week goes by and in the morning A.P.S. calls me about confusion over the directions to her house. That night I get a call at work from Jans husband who can barely contain himself, he is so happy, He tells me your mom says she doesnt want to talk to you. When i insisted on seeing her he called me a baby!. He cared for his own Mother at their home until she passed on! how dare he judge my feelings!.
A.P.S. referred me to the sheriff to get a police escort to try and see Mom, however if someone says they dont want to talk to you there is nothing anyone can do. The police escort is only to create a paper trail. I have told my story to Dr. Phil and was accepted to appear on the show. The effort was another dead end. My sister would have to agree to appear with me on the show. I asked in a text and got no reply. I asked my sister why Mom doesnt want to talk to me and she says” I will want to tell he my issues”. I cant afford private mediation, the courts dont give it in this situation and Jan would never agree to it anyway. I will text her about it today, more paper trail.
I spoke to the sheriff mentioned in the beginning of my story who could not offer any help either however he did say for the police to ask why Mom doesnt want to talk to me. He also told me about the kasemcares web site and said maybe the can help. He mentioned that the website is all about what I am experiencing
I am having deep depression and anxiety attacks , I have trust issues now. This is affecting my friendships. I cant eat and I have to take medication or i cant sleep. I cry and then get angry. I am an extremely positive person that adapts easily to any situation life hands me, be it good or bad. I am not use to feeling what I feel every day. I cant believe my flesh and blood is intentionally doing this to Mom and I for money ! If someone, anyone out there can restore my faith in humanity and justice please answer my plea. Thank god for my two little dogs, my best friends. They are the only ones that have been able to help me. My Mom is with her little dog now, I know he comforts her as well.
Id just like to say, this is spot on, to what my step sister has done and is doing. I was watching a TV Show and Kerri Kasem was explaining what happened to her, I JUMPED UP AND SALUTED KERRI~!!!! This is happening, apparently, everywhere~!! This page on kasem cares.com is point by point, Accurate of what my step sister is doing.http://www.kasemcares.crs-consulting.com/red_flags_and_elder_abuser_tactics
My Brother Mark, was appointed executor#1 by our now deceased Father .and step sister took it, somehow, took it away~!!!! She became #1 now~!!
I complained to Mark, the Nursing Home was heavy drugging Mom and My Brother told Me, He didnt care if they were giving her Vaseline~!! AS LONG AS IT KEPT HER IN CHECK~!!! I havent seen Mom, Since March of 2015.. A couple times I received a phone call from Brother, while he was visiting Mom.. I dont approve, Obviously of how they do/did Mom..So theyve cut me out of their plan. Step Sister wanted my Mom to go to Nursing Home in 1994, When my Father passed.. In 2013 Mom started showing signs of mental slippage, Sister, activated her plan of snatch and remove Mom from her DREAM HOUSE Accusing Me and my Girlfriend of Abuse~!! Which was unfounded~!! Of Course~!!! Mom cried, they made her sign over the deed to new owner, house went cheap~!! And overnight Fast~!! Shes thrown into a residential care home, THATS OWNED BY MY STEP SISTERS LIFELONG FRIEND~!!
MOM IS A CASH COW TO THEM~!!!
Mom has lived in California, Most all of her Adult Life, Step Sister steals her away to Texas~!! I called Texas APS to report THE UN NECESSARY OVER DRUGGING Mom doesnt need any drugs~!! As soon as they found out She was in a Nursing Home, they APS told Me they wont investigate, But I could hire a Private Investigator~!! Then I was told to Anticipate the new arrival of the Texas APS Website~!! They seemed more excited about new website, than the plight of my Mom~!!!!
They keep using Moms age against her.. Well, in 2013 Shed burn up and down our steeply inclined driveway, several times a day, checking for the mail Shed toss a case of water out of her way and yell at me, why was that there ? Then, Shes thrown into step sisters friends care home, lays in bed everyday and deteriorates~!!!
Well, I heard through the gravevine, THE END IS NEAR AND HOSPICE HAS TAKEN OVER~!!!! I AM BEING DENIED, TO SEE HER~!! SIBLINGS TELLING ME “”MAKE A GOOD BYE VIDEO””
Theres a whole lot more, like her falling and breaking her hip, but I will spare the
viewers, of it . Thank You Kerri Kasem, for Cracking These Abusive Practices, Wide Open~!!!
NBC Nightly News and 60 Minutes, needs to create and aire this
topic, repeatedly, these abuse strategical tactics are widespread
and need exposed~!!!!!! I contacted an Attorney and She told me,
YOUR SISTER HAD HELP, SETTING THIS ALL UP~!!!!!!
I am the biological father of an incapacitated adult under guardianship in the Commonwealth of Virginia, Victoria Tori Russell Pace, my only biological child. Tori was born with an extremely rare genetic disorder often referred to as the 11q Genetic Disorder. Her life expectancy is unknown. Tori has a sister and she lives with her biological mother and disabled stepfather. Disability is something that we understand well.
Melanie, Toris mother, and I separated prior to Toris birth. I have been a very active parent in all aspects of Toris life despite the many challenges in the parental relationship. Unfortunately, Melanie and I had our own share of traumas in life before we were adults. We have always desired the best for Tori and her sister with Melanie basically dominating parental decisions. Thus, I was not surprised at the manner in which guardianship proceedings were initiated by Melanie, the custodial parent.
I worked in the long term care industry for many years as a state nursing facility inspector and assisted living facilities in the Commonwealth of Virginia. I also served as a Local Long-Term Care Ombudsman with Senior Connections, an Area Agency on Aging. I was a strong and well known advocate for the rights the disabled and adults in nursing facilities, assisted living facilities and adult day care centers. I met challenges to my recommendations for actions to prevent and discipline providers and staff based on the finding s of investigation or inspection results. I paid a price then as I am today when it comes to advocacy for the rights of the disabled and/or incapacitated adults. I never thought that this would be me. I never that I would experience guardianship or guardian abuse. It just wasnt in my thinking. i thought that I was exempt, doesnt apply to my family.
I was separated from contact and communication with Tori by her mother, and not by any other authority. I was given the opportunity to comment during the guardianship proceedings and at which time I expressed my concerns over the possibility of being separated from Tori by her based on prior interference with visitation, communication and efforts to severe the strong loving bond. When I addressed the Court, Melanie stated to Judge Wallenstein, Jr. that she would never do such a thing. This line of good intentions is consistent with a long history of false allegations and statements to destroy my character. There is no finding against me as a parent in the Juvenile & Domestic Courts, child support enforcement, civil or criminal court when it comes to my interactions with Melanie and/or daughter, Tori.
Guardianship was appointed with no enforceable protection by the Circuit Court recognizing strong and long bond between Tori, her biological father and place of worship. These bonds terminated in April 2015 by guardian. Please note that the petition for guardianship was filed at the time I had major back surgery for a neuro-spinal device implant to control chronic pain. Thus, I was recovering when the notice of the hearing was served and at the time of the hearing. I am unable to work thus unable to afford counsel then and at the present. Tori was separated from her choir the second week of April 2015. Melanie took Tori to rehearsal because I was recovering from gall bladder surgery. We had words over this incident at the choir rehearsal and then can the separation between Tori and I. The guardian alleged that she removed Tori from the choir because of her disapproved of the choir director. Tori has not be back to her place of worship where we are members. Nothing else has surfaced about the church but the focus been placed by the guardian on the allegation that Tori does not want to see or talk to me. I have phone recordings to the contrary. It was the guardian who ended the last two conversations between my daughter and I.
Months leading up to this, the guardian demonstrated constructed efforts to separate and severe the bond. During this time, the guardian made it difficult if not almost impossible to have any meaningful shared time between Tori and I. Communication rested on Melanie meaning that she should say that Tori wasnt available to talk or would act to bring a call conversation to a quick end. Tori is gift and very capable of communicating me.
I encourage you to go to Toris Talk Show on YouTube.
The point is that the law was used to separate a healthy family bond recognized by the court. The separation was manufactured and executed by the guardian to serve the guardian desire not to have contact or communication with me and not seeing the need to maintain or promote the strong and loving bond between father and daughter. The separation has been tragic for Tori and I. I contact the police on April 28, 2015 when I was turned away from a planned visit and activity event with Tori.
Tori stated at two separate times on the police video recording that she wanted to leave the house and go the event with me. The guardian boldly refused. You should she Toris expression on the video recording. I love history and strongly believe that the existing guardianship laws in the Commonwealth can reduce an individual to a slave like status. Tori and I are decedents of slaves. We share ancestry with many of the First Families of Virginia base on DNA estimations provided by Ancestry.com Thus, in my case, sole and complete guardianship renders my daughter and I to a slave like status. Melanie has complete control over Tori and the basis for decisions flip and flop. Where as the guardian refused to acknowledge and honor Toris express wishes in 2015, she states in the present under the 2016 changes to the law that Tori does not wish to see or talk to me.
The damaged is direct result of insufficiency the Virginia Guardianship laws and abuse of authority in the presence of the failure to abide by the duties and responsibilities of guardians. I have: exhausted financial resources, written elected officials, was present for the 2016 General Assembly Guardianship committee and passage of new legislation, gone to Call 12 On Your Side in 2015 and 2016 without followup on this legal and human interest matter, suffered medical set backs and strive each day to cope with the cruelty we are experiencing under the current guardianship laws in the Commonwealth of Virginia. The church does not know how or is not prepared to handle this type of family matter because there is the law. They do not get involved because the guardian has the right to do so under the existing laws.
Spirituality has been my source of strength. Legal counsel has been a challenge if not a barrier to progress. It is maddening and I have not committed a crime nor have been found at fault for anything in this matter. My daughter and I are separated because law permits with not reasonable means to evaluate the appropriateness of the actions a of a guardian. There is not recognition or provisions for the protection of known family ties at the establishment of the guardianship. In addition, there is no link between the juvenile court visitation and support orders to protect bonds, the family. We have a noose around our neck.
Why do we have laws which mirror or the potential to subject persons to the anything that could be a kind to slavery, discrimination. or reflect the horrors where one is kidnapped and stripped of identity, rights, privileges and family? Why do we have laws that destroy and financially devastate a person in the process of seeking justice. The process of getting matter before a judge has brought in public humiliation in the church, with family and friends. They do not understand how this could be knowing all the good that they know and have witnessed as loving and kind. The guardian dispatched a war party, plan, that would make it difficult for me to get help in the church, to secure the video, etc. The plan was well executed.
However, I need help to get this matter before the Court. I have the evidence. I kept records, phone records, and communicated with the authorities well before the separation for assistance to make sure that I was informed and did the right things for the right reasons. Please understand that I am charged with emotions as you may have been in prior years. I have yet to find the right venue where I can channel my energy as you have done so very well.
Money can buy freedom! I am 51 years old and Tori is 21 years old. Time matters and we are worthy of help. We seek help in restoring the communication and contact as recognized by the Henrico County Circuit Court.
Oliver Wendell Pace
5616 Indigo Road
Richmond, VA 23230